saying goodbye to 2024 in a much better place than this time last year!

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 155.6|

Transition to Normal Food⟫ Day 2

New Year’s Eve, traditionally a time of making resolutions so here’s mine. I want to commit to following the rules and instructions that my bariatric team give me as much as I am able to give this the absolute best chance of working for me. I have my first follow-up medical appointment next Monday so I want to make notes on questions that I might have. I know that I have blood tests following the group meeting and they should be able to let me know if I should be trying harder with regard to the vitamins, etc. I’m not so much worried about weighing in because when I spoke to the nurse, he said that there were no weight goals to meet for this first meeting.

I have the round up of my figures for 2024 from Libra and they look pretty good.

Obviously it shows my highest weight from November 2023 which was 207.7 kg but it just makes me realise how far I’ve come. I’ve lost over a quarter of my original start weight which is crazy to me, and I know that if I follow instructions and do what I am meant to do, I can achieve similar success in 2025. I don’t want to set unrealistic expectations – the surgery is meant to assist you in losing 60-70% of your excess weight, but even so, it should make a huge difference to my life.

I’m making the transition to normal food – yesterday I had half of a ready-meal fish pie (more like a third) but that should also help making food choices easier. So far today, I’ve only had a scrambled egg but I didn’t go to sleep until something like 8 am so I started the day late! I tried to dye my hair coral peach but apparently the purple is too strong, so I am starting the new year with frosted purple hair. I’m okay with that – in fact, I’m feeling okay about a lot of things.

For anyone reading this, I can honestly say that I don’t regret using Ozempic despite all of the side effects I suffered through and I don’t regret the surgery. I am still struggling on occasion – the mind stuff is such a head-fuck – and I know I will have struggles ahead, but I truly do feel like I made the right choice for me. I am sat here wearing size 4x trousers (down from 8x) and a size 24/26 vest top when normally I would be wearing a size 30/32. That is an achievement in and of itself.

I have no idea if I will be writing as much of the daily stuff – I think I needed to get my thoughts out a lot more over the last couple of months but presumably things will calm down. Either way, I can heartily recommend a blog or diary to help you look back on how things really were rather than distorted by lack of memory, as well as helping me see how far I have come. Tomorrow I want to do ribbon measurements (where you use lengths of ribbon to do your body measurements and then on a monthly basis to see the difference and not rely on a tape measure. I also want to do my monthly photos and I might start compiling those to see what the before and during photos look like.

I also want to take down my Christmas tree and try to restore my bedroom to something resembling normality. I sent back a few things that I’d ordered from SimplyBe because I didn’t need them and was just spending money for the sake of it. I want to start saving my money so that if I get PIP, I can get a Motability car and use the money for any Advance Payment.

I am grateful for the surgery; for the assistance given to me, especially by Violet in Endocrinology; how much support and love I have received from friends like Sare and Jay; but most importantly from Stripes, Book_grim and the Oldest. I wouldn’t be where I am now if it wasn’t for them and I am unendingly grateful for having them in my life.

So that’s me, signing off for 2024 and looking forward to 2025.

Post Surgery Four Week Round Up

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 155.8|

Mashables/Soft Foods Week⟫ Day 7

Time Since Surgery⟫ 4 Weeks

I decided to do a bit of a round up of things since the surgery. It’s a little more than four weeks post-op – more like 31 days.

When I went in for surgery, I weighed in at 164.4 kg and this morning I weighed in at 155.8 kg which means I’ve lost 8.6 kg since the operation. I have read about people losing more than that and am trying not to be too disappointed. In fact, I feel like I should be pleased but I also know that my head is a messed up place. I’ve lost 39.2 kg in 2024 which is pretty impressive since I didn’t have the surgery until the end of November.

Today for the first time I took a gabapentin and a duloxetine as a capsule and kept it down. This may be a bit of a game-changer for me as I have been struggling with taking the gabapentin dissolved in liquid – the taste stays in my mouth, makes me feel sick and makes it difficult to have anything else. I am also hopeful that I can get into a proper routine with my antidepressants now that it appears I can take them whole, which can only be helpful. I’m not going to try to do all of my medicines in solid form because I don’t think my stomach will handle that at the moment, but it is definitely a step forward.

Food-wise, I’m not quite where the bariatric bible says I should be. I’m doing a weird mix of puree and mashables – I had scrambled egg for breakfast but didn’t manage to eat all of it; smoothies don’t seem to be working for me at the moment; the chicken stew that Stripes made during puree week stays down and is good; things seem variable but I’m okay with that. I’m not expecting textbook, just progress. Drinking my water from my bottle with a straw does seem to mean that I am drinking more, and having put my protein water in there today I am feeling quite positive that I am going to finish at least 500 ml which is an achievement.

Sleep-wise, things are weird. Sleeping sitting up seems to be better for my stomach in terms of discomfort, but I definitely sleep better on my side lying down. I got some thermal socks because my feet felt like they were constantly freezing and that has definitely helped. The last couple of days, I’ve gone to bed around 2 am and slept through until 6 am when I need the bathroom, then I fall asleep again and don’t wake up again until sometime in the afternoon. The same sort of thing happened today but I woke up at 11 am, then crashed out until mid-afternoon. The thing is, I wake up feeling so weary! And if I’ve found my way off of the mountain of pillows to sleep on my side, my stomach feels like my insides have been through a tumble drier, which makes it harder to eat anything.

Stripes did make the point that Christmas is always a time of upheaval with bad sleeping, disruption, etc so I can’t fully blame the surgery for that. I think what I want to do is honour what my body is telling me – if it’s tired, then go to sleep even if it’s 11 am in the morning. I don’t have any appointments until 6th January so there’s plenty of time for me to ‘catch up’ on all the sleep I’ve missed. It doesn’t help that I still haven’t managed to kick this cold/sneezing thing.

I did some shopping at SimplyBe and ordered an oversized teddy bear fleece jumper dress. It’s lovely and soft, a gorgeous winter white colour but I may have overestimated the size. Book_grim fits into it with me and Stripes got a fabulous photo of the two of in it! I’m keeping it but will be sending back the fancy dress I ordered before Christmas as well as the cherry-red Mary Jane shoes. I was pleased that the size 9 fit me and seem comfortable but I have to be honest and admit I can’t think of where I would wear them. It makes more sense to send the back than to have the just cluttering up the place.

Once I get to six weeks post-op, I want to start using my resistance bands every other day but in the meantime I try to make sure I do a wander around the flat every now and then. Sometimes it feels like I’m dragging but other times I feel almost spritely. There have been a couple of times when I’ve got light-headed and felt like I’m going to pass out. That could be the lack of food or just the vertigo rearing it’s ugly head, so I shall keep an eye on that. I also want to start compiling a list of questions that I want to ask at my appointment on 6th, like when I should start taking the vitamins, when I should be able to return to all my medicines in solid form, that kind of thing.

There is a part of me that still can’t believe I actually did it – I underwent surgery and made it out the other side. The incisions are healing nicely, although there might be a bit of a keloid on a couple of them. And so far I haven’t done anything monumentally stupid in terms of forcing food or doing too much (after the initial few days when Stripes had to tell me off), so yeah me!

Tonight I think we’re going to try to watch the Gavin and Stacey Finale and maybe Wallace and Gromit. Tomorrow, Stripes has ED Counselling so she has spent today working through the stuff she was given; Book_grim is going for a sleep-study so will be sleeping at the hospital, and then on Tuesday night she’s working New Year’s Eve.

Scale Victory - 50 kgs lost!

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 157.3 |

Mashables/Soft Foods Week⟫ Day 3

I did it – I lost 50 kgs! Definitely chuffed although I’m also completely and utterly exhausted. I didn’t fall asleep until 7 am and woke up around 12 and have been dragging all day. I had a shower and put on my Christmas jimjams which feel really odd because I can’t think of the last time I actually bought ‘female’ pyjamas – they fit weird. I bought them in size 28/30 and they do fit, but they just feel too ‘close’, I can’t think of another way to describe it. Mind you, I am running the mother of all temperatures and have passed out a couple of times. When will this cold be done with me?

Today, I had my Christmas dinner: a slice of turkey, a small ball of stuffing, some mashed potatoes and gravy. I managed about 2/3 of the turkey, 1/3 of the stuffing and maybe a mouthful of the potatoes. Later, I had half a minced pie and a taste of the girls’ cheesecake. This is most definitely the most I’ve eaten since before surgery and I am feeling the need for the post-dinner nap!

Spoke to Mom and Shar who were spending Christmas together, left messages for other people but have generally not been online and am fine with that. We can get back to outside life when the holidays are over! I got some money for Christmas as well as my resistance bands, so may treat myself to some clothes in the sales. Then again, it might be worth me waiting until my birthday when I have a better idea of what size clothes to go for? To be fair, I don’t go out very often so don’t need much in the way of clothing – it would make more sense to save the money until I need it for something particular.

Stripes is off to spend some time with her Dad’s side of the family tomorrow so it will just be me and Book_grim until Friday. Gotta admit, my plans for tomorrow consist of sleep, reading and more sleep – I am aiming to sleep like Dmi and Castiel for the day, treat it like getting some shut-eye is my job!

Mashables Week - Day 2

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 157.9 |

Mashables/Soft Foods Week⟫ Day 2

Yeah, the scales went down but talk about tease – 0.2 away from being at 50 kgs off. This cold isn’t going anywhere, I had a crap night’s sleep, and I haven’t really enjoyed anything I’ve eaten today. I wonder if I am eating too much because sometimes there is a horrendous ache in my upper chest after eating. Not that I’m getting in my protein, water or anything really. Eggs, all bran, chicken stew and half a smoothie.

Christmas dinner has a lot of expectations to meet but I am preparing myself for disappointment! Fuck it, I didn’t even think I was going to make it to Christmas Day – I’m aiming for a day of gratitude, relaxation and love – I wish the same to anyone reading this!

Mashables Week - Day 1

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 158.2 |

Mashables/Soft Foods Week⟫ Day 1

I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t disappointed at the lack of movement on the scales – I was really hoping to hit 50kgs off. I know I can still do it before the end of the year, but for some reason I was so sure that it was going to happen today.

Today began mashables/soft foods and both Stripes and I are feeling a little adrift without a paddle. The Bariatric bible says what kinds of foods to make but it doesn’t really seem to say meals which means it can feel a bit like lobbing a group of foods together and hoping they taste good!

Today, I have had two scrambled eggs, a coconut and peach smoothie, some all bran, chicken stew and milk. That kinda looks like five meals in the day – kinda. I suffered from some pretty epic diarrhoea today – it reminded me of shortly after the surgery when it felt like my body was doing some major inner cleansing. I can’t even begin to figure out what may have kicked it off – maybe the smoothie? Not enough protein in it or something? Anyway, yet another reason why I was so hopeful about dropping that half a kilo but it was not to be.

I had a rough night’s sleep last night – was up at 3 am and writing to Jay, just spewing out all of my thoughts. Here are a couple of the essays I wrote!

1) 3am in the morning and I'm wide awake - couldn't tell you why, just that I'm not best pleased about it! I think today may well be the first time that I have actively regretted the surgery. When I was using Ozempic, I still felt like I had a lot of control - if I wanted to eat something 'bad', I could make that choice knowing the consequences (generally a very upset stomach, occasional vomiting, cramps, etc.) whereas this all feels very confusing, I feel lost and like I have no control. There are times when I can drink some of a smoothie and I'm fine - other times, just one sip makes everything clench and hurt; sipping liquids is so unsatisfying sometimes - sometimes I miss the ability to glug down water when I'm feeling thirsty.

2) I also find myself comparing myself to other people. On Ozempic, it could be very lonely because basically the Dr writes the prescription and off you go. Losses and gains are all personal because everyone is eating differently, so it's harder to compare yourself. I've been on Reddit a few times and seen people who have lost 66lbs in two months and I can't help but compare my results with that. I know that it's early days - I know that it's only been three weeks and I've lost just under a stone so I should be happy. I just feel like - could I have done this carrying on with Ozempic? It's a weird place to be. My incisions feel like they're tugging - not painful, just not quite right - and this cold just won't go away which is making things worse. Today I snapped at Nina because she was crunching her crisps too loudly. I apologised and explained that I was going through some head stuff, but I just feel so ruddy awful. I know it can and will get better - maybe I need to sleep sitting up more often to help with the tugging? Tomorrow I start mashable food so the change in food will be nice. I just - I just feel a bit blank, a lot lost, and very sorry for myself.

I finally crashed out but in order to do so, I had to sleep upright using the giant cushion thing I bought. It definitely helps with the pain and discomfort but I would hardly call it comfortable. We’re talking about turning my mattress over when we change my bedding for my Christmas stuff – maybe that will help? My incisions are surrounded by little forests of white-heads, most likely from the Vaseline I’ve been using to keep them moist and both Stripes and Book_grim managed to stop me from trying to pop them. I think they are where most of the itching is coming from and it’s so aggravating but I don’t want to put anything else on them as apparently using Germolene or Savlon or whatever can make the incisions get all gunked up which I definitely do not want. Tomorrow I want a nice long shower – moisturise all the bits I can comfortably reach and maybe paint my fingernails and toenails. Do my bit to get festive!

The shop is due from Asda which includes a shit-ton of flavoured Green yoghurt, as well some more mango puree which I have missed – the peaches didn’t hit the spot at all, giving more of a fragrance than a taste. I also ordered a bariatric air fryer cookbook that includes recipes that might help us plan meals a bit better. It won’t get here until Friday as I missed the last Christmas deliveries but to be fair, the next few days have meals sorted: the remaining chicken stew Stripes made today, as well as the ‘traditional’ Christmas dinner.

Tonight is the last night Book_grim is working before Christmas so tomorrow should (hopefully) be quite relaxing. Stripes has the second part of the baking for her Dad’s side of the family to be getting on with and I have a couple of books to read, as well as starting to watch ‘Luke Cage’ on Disney+ - maybe watching Mike Colter will put me in a good mood!

Puree Week - Day 7 and can someone please shut off my brain?

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 158.2 |

Puree Week⟫ Day 7

My head is a bit of a mess at the moment. I snapped – very unfairly – at Book_grim earlier because she was crunching crisps and it just made me feel so angry. I did apologise and tried to explain that today may be the first time that I’ve actually regretted having the surgery.

I’m trying to get my thoughts into gear so bear with me. Whilst I was on Ozempic, I kinda knew the side effects I could expect, whether it be vomiting or diarrhoea, and make the choice about what I ate knowing the consequences. The weight loss wasn’t speedy or guaranteed but I felt more in control. Ever since the surgery, it just feels like everything is out of my control. I can eat smoothies then suddenly I can’t; I can’t drink whatever I want when I want; I can barely identify hunger triggers; I feel truly lost with the whole change from puree to mashables – everything just feels really confusing. I was reading on Reddit and someone said when they overeat it makes them sneeze(?!) and I instantly found myself thinking what if this isn’t a cold but me constantly overeating? It’s like utter insanity in my head and I am so struggling with it.

I should be celebrating – the weigh in this morning means I am 0.5kg away from being 50kg lighter than I have been in years. But all I want to do is cry and drink a bottle of fizzy pop without suffering the wind from hell. My incisions are itchy and painful, the horrid tugging is back and I feel wretched.

Positivity! Yeah, okay, I can do that. I have been feeling like a real slug-a-bed recently, and the cancellation of the wet room deep clean bothered me more than I realised. So I set myself up in the bathroom with help from Book_grim and Stripes, and cleaned the cats’ feeders - -scrubbed off the accumulation of years worth of wet food and kibble. Then I scrubbed the toilet bowl, the seat, dusted off the cat fur that had gathered (yuck) and put a nice smelling rim-block. I know Book_grim was worried that I was overdoing it – and she might have been right – but I just needed to feel in control of some part of my environment. Yes I’m feeling it – everything hurts at this point – but I also feel like I achieved something. It might be small to a lot of people but to me, it felt like I did something that I really wanted to do that wasn’t related to weight loss or surgery. And I think I needed that.

Stripes made my dinner this evening: mashed potatoes, pureed spinach, onions, eatlean cheese and milk and it was lovely. I didn’t finish it but it was very tasty and made a nice change from what feels like a lot of sweet things. That or cup-a-soup which is another staple. I’ve also made myself a smoothie using the chocolate protein rice pudding with Greek yoghurt and some milk and that should see me through to the end of the evening, and I had two scrambled eggs for breakfast so I think I actually managed to eat my five meals today. Nearly.

Sometimes I think I need to stay away from places like Reddit, etc. I know the posts and comments there are going to be out of the norm, but it seems like everyone is dropping weight like it’s going out of style whilst my weight loss feels so slow. It’s three weeks since the surgery and I haven’t even managed to lose a stone yet. I think any other month, I would be relatively happy with that rate of loss but because of the surgery and comparing myself to other people, I feel like I’m failing? Add to that Mom’s voice in my head telling me that I should be able to lose 2 stone between surgery date and my first hospital appointment on 6th January and I definitely feel like a failure. I hate that I am letting that into my head; I hate that I am letting that affect my mood; I hate that I am judging myself so harshly when if someone was talking to me about all of this, I would tell them to take it easy and let things just work they way that they are meant to. I hate that I don’t seem to have the ability to relax and trust the process.

It doesn’t help that I am wondering if I am sabotaging myself in some way, like I deliberately don’t want to lose two stone by the appointment because that would be proving Mom right, and I really quite desperately don’t want her to be right. Like, how fucked in the head is that – I would rather fail than prove my Mom right. That’s quite a sobering thought and I think I need to sit with that for a bit – figure out how to put those thoughts, those feelings into perspective so that they don’t poison the things that I do. There are times when I desperately hate my brain and this is definitely one of those times.

Puree Week - Day 6 and still sick!

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 158.8 |

Puree Week⟫ Day 6

I’m beginning to wonder if I should try to see a doctor for this cold. I can’t think of one day since the surgery when I haven’t had issues sneezing or breathing and had simply put it down to the time of year. But today was tough – Stripes had to help me with the nebuliser again and I ended up having to sleep because it seemed like the only way I could relax enough to breathe properly. I don’t want to be overly dramatic but I also don’t want to dismiss symptoms of something being wrong.

I have wondered if I’m eating too quickly and taking in too much air – my scrambled egg today was gone really quickly as I left it too long and hadn’t realised how hungry I was. I’ve also found that the best way to eat my smoothie is with a spoon as sipping from the blender seems to encourage too much air getting in. It’s frustrating but then I also need to remind myself that it’s barely been three weeks and I’m not going to get it all right straight away.

Today was day 6 of puree’d food which means on Monday I should be going to mashables. And I am more than a little scared. I had all bran yesterday and it was fine – chewing each small bite between thirty and forty times seemed to work, but that was basically like gruel. It was mainly liquid anyway – I’m not sure how it’s going to work with more solid food. I think I might start with mashed potato because that can be quite liquid-y. I was really looking forward to the eatlean cheese but every time we’ve added even a small amount to my scrambled eggs, I’ve had issues. Saying that, I’d still like to try to melt some into my mashed potatoes and see if it works.

I also found myself eating whilst playing a game on my phone and I need to not let that become a habit. I need to eat mindfully – slowly, chewing each bite at least twenty times, each meal should last at least twenty minutes.

Hard to feel positive when I can barely breathe but let me see if I can come up with something. I didn’t panic as much as the first time it got this bad – instead, I made sure to ask Stripes for the nebuliser sooner rather than later, accepted my limitations and allowed myself to just sleep. I think I have been struggling with how slow my recovery has been without considering the fact that I had major abdominal surgery, my body is still healing, and this is just the beginning of the journey. I’m doing okay, I’m a work in progress and I’m doing okay.

Puree Week - Day 5

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 158.6 |

Puree Week⟫ Day 5

Didn’t sleep very well last night which explains why I didn’t get up until after 12 today. It’s my writing day but my creativity button seems to be on snooze, so instead I read some books and left some book reviews. Still a good use of my time and I am pleased I managed to get something done.

Struggling a little bit with the whole eating thing. I manage a scrambled egg each day (with a little help from Dmi) but apart from that, I seem to be living on yoghurt, milky coffee and the occasional smoothie. Today, I made my smoothie including a protein rice pudding from Muller and am struggling to eat it. I added yoghurt and mango puree but not milk, so it’s thicker than usual – almost thick enough to need a spoon – and I can take about three mouthfuls before I feel like my stomach is too full and I’m going to be sick. I’m nowhere near the five meals per day that I am meant to be on, and I’m beginning to think that I am not going to be able to handle mashables from Monday.

The thing, I seem to swing from ‘just keep sipping’ to mild panic that I’m not taking the vitamins as yet, don’t think I’m managing over 1000 calories per day and highly doubt that I am meeting any protein goals. Which in the long run is going to do me more harm than good. What if that’s why the scales aren’t really moving? I read a post on Reddit where someone is two months out of surgery and have lost 66 lbs!! Like – I haven’t managed to lose a stone in one month and someone has already lost nearly four times that amount. And it’s not because they weigh more than me – their start weight was much less than mine so they have less to lose. Sometimes there’s this panic of ‘what if I can’t do this? What if I fail?’ I try to remind myself that it’s been three weeks and I am still healing; the scales are moving even if it feels like very slowly; every body is different and I spent decades abusing my body with ridiculous diets, etc so all of this is going to take time.

But what if I do fail?

Okay, positivity: you only fail if you give up and I’m not giving up. The scales are not moving as fast as I would like them to but I am still sticking to it. I lost 100 lbs over the last year before the surgery so it’s not like I can’t do it – I have the extra tools now and there is no big rush to get the weight off as soon as possible. It took years to go on and may take years to come off. I need to stay the course, trust the process, trust myself and just keep doing what I’m doing.

And if I don’t make it onto mashables on Monday, then big deal. It’s not like the food is going to disappear if I don’t have it for Christmas. Far better to honour where my body is at than to try to push things along prematurely – I am worth the time and effort it is taking to do this. My goals are manageable and I have the ability to do this.

I think it’s time to grab my crochet and see what’s on the TV – Reddit and other online places are becoming triggers instead of support and inspiration, so better to just remove myself from there before it gets too far into my head.

Puree Week - Day 4

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 158.9 |

Puree Week⟫ Day 4

Three weeks post surgery and I really don’t know how I’m feeling. It’s nice that the scales are starting to move downwards again, although I know I need to be aware that they are just as likely to go up as down whilst my body is adjusting to everything. I often feel ‘normal’ as in the incisions still itch like crazy but don’t actively hurt as much as they once did. I can walk around without holding onto my stomach for fear that it’s going to fall off or something ridiculous like that. I definitely don’t feel up to doing any exercise and the fatigue is real, but to be fair, that’s pretty much my normal. I think the sense of normality has definitely been assisted by me beginning to get my antidepressants into my system on the regular, and today I tried gabapentin again (the taste is so vile, it even killed my mango puree smoothie!)

Positivity: this one was difficult because it involved looking in a mirror and finding something positive to say about myself. My hair is a virulent purple (striking and pretty) and it would be so easy to say something about that and leave it. But I want to try and be as honest as possible. I look tired – dark circles under my eyes and my skin looks a little grey. BUT. I can see a change in my face shape – only a little but more than I’ve ever managed before – and I really like the way my skin looks against the purple hair. That has to count, right? I still have a very round face but it’s not as surface of the moon as I used to think!

Stripes hit Home Bargains today and sent me masses of photos of the various products so that I could choose the things I wanted. So many pretties, including hand soap, body wash, perfumed mist, nail varnishes – bliss! And it gave me an idea – I want to clear off one of my chest of drawers and make myself a ‘treat’ section – foot packs, body lotions, perfumes – all in one prominent place so that I make an effort to be nice to myself.

I did a lot of reading today but still haven’t finished the ARC I have – I have a writing day tomorrow so intend to finish the book and do a review straight away. It’s a good book – not as good as the first one I read from the author, but good nevertheless. I don’t know if I have any fiction in me – that side of my brain seems to be on holiday at the moment which is a bit of a pain because there are some outstanding stories that I would like to work on. Maybe inspiration will strike tomorrow but I’m not holding out much hope.

I’ve nearly finished the blanket for Jay’s grand-daughter and Stripes is making the second one as she has no crochet project on at the moment, so hopefully we’ll be able to get those posted early next week.

The DVD box-set I ordered turned up – it’s Emerald City which Stripes and I watched years ago. I was so excited to watch it but must admit to being a little disappointed. Maybe I bigged it up too much in my head? Not helped by the lack of subtitles and the low’ voices they all speak in. I still want to watch it but not as excited as I was. We watched the latest Strike on BBCiPlayer and it was brilliant. Frustrating but brilliant. I wish they made more of them but also want them to maintain the high level of entertainment etc so I guess I’ll have to wait another couple of years for the next series.

Food-wise, I’ve done okay. I managed a scrambled egg in 30 minutes (with Dmi’s help), had a mango puree smoothie, cup-a-soup and a milky coffee so nearly the five small meals that I’m meant to have. I know I’m nowhere near the right level of liquids or protein but it is definitely getting easier. One step closer to mashables – sip sip sip!

Just keep sipping - puree week day 3

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 159.2 |

Puree Week⟫ Day 3

Was awake when Book_grim got in from work around 4 am and shared a yoghurt and a chat. This morning, we all seemed to be feeling exhausted so the day didn’t really start until after 11 am. I was so impressed though, cos Book_grim got all of her important chores handled before she left to spend a few days with her Dad.

Stripes dyed my hair soft-lavender again with the Crazy Colour and I had a shower. I feel clean but my incisions are itching like you wouldn’t believe, and two of them have a weird spike-like thing sticking out of them. It’s difficult to tell what it is – maybe a stitch​? – but I’m trying my best to leave them alone and just use vaseline to keep the skin moist.

I’m wearing my new Garfield jimjams and can’t figure out if I’m imagining it or not, but they feel a little looser? Not that the scales have made a great jump downwards or anything like that. It’s hard to remain positive when there seems to be no real movement – I’m barely managing my liquid goals let alone the puree ones, which means I’m eating less than 800 calories per day. Surely the scales should be dropping more than this, right? Sigh – just keep sipping, just keep sipping. We didn’t end up contacting the surgery team regarding the trapped wind issue – partly because we all slept in and partly because there is a major part of me that feels like I’m making a big deal out of nothing.

Positivity: this is more difficult today. I was thinking that I’ve turned into a real hermit, with my phone on do not disturb, avoiding chats, etc. Then I realised it’s because I’m feeling a bit fragile and I’m protecting my peace. There’s no point putting myself out there just to be over-sensitive to things that might be said – it makes more sense to hunker down and be nice to myself. I think normally I would be trying to force myself to be sociable/be on, but I am just feeling absolutely exhausted and like I need a break. So I’m taking one.

Stripes and I are going to watch the new season of Strike on BBCiPlayer and I’m going to keep going with the blanket I’m making for Jay’s grand-daughter, although I’m not sure if it’s any good. It doesn’t look like a neat rectangle to me and I wouldn’t even be offended if Jay said thanks but no thanks! Tomorrow makes three weeks since surgery and I know that means I am well within the three week stall. I was hoping that wouldn’t happen to me, but apparently in this I am going to be ‘typical’. Damned shame, as some people have had some amazing losses in the first three weeks since surgery, whereas I seem to be making no real progress.

Just keep sipping!

Trapped Wind is Satanic!

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 159.4 |

Puree Week⟫ Day 2 Redux

Well, it’s been a bit of a day. I woke up sneezing and wheezing and feeling really tight in my chest. I thought I’d managed to kick the worst of this cough/cold but apparently not. As the morning progressed, things got worse – it felt like I had a boulder stuck on my chest with how badly the wind was trapped and a few times I thought I was going to throw up.

Stripes helped me use the nebuliser which helped clear my nose (dripping all over the place – gross) but I couldn’t calm down enough to be able to work through the trapped wind. In the end, I put on my CPAP machine, settled under the duvet and put on a playlist of someone shopping at Home Bargains over the cousrse of the year. I’m not sure how long I slept for, but I felt markedly better when I woke up. If it happens again this evening/tomorrow morning, we’re going to call the surgery team to see if they have suggestions. I was petrified of throwing up, firstly for what it might do to my stitches and secondly because I hadn’t actually consumed anything.

Today, I’ve had a milky coffee, a jelly pot, a tablespoon of tuna with a tablespoon of mashed potatoes, and I’ve made a mango and passionfruit smoothie to finish everything off. It’s not quite the full puree menu – I’m meant to be aiming for five meals per day – but I think it’s progress.

Positivity: comparison is the theft of joy. I was watching either Too Large or 1000 lb Friends (not sure which) and one of the people had already lost nearly 2 stone three weeks post surgery. Then I read a post on Reddit and someone was told they should be losing 1 lb per day. I’m nowhere near that and was beginning to feel like a failure. I even went so far as to weigh myself with no clothes on to see if there was a difference. There is, but there felt like there was no point in logging that weight because tomorrow when I go back to weighing wearing clothes, it would just show a rise. That was the point that made me realise that I was letting other people’s journeys and achievements get into my head. The scales will go down when they go down – in the meantime, my job is to take the meds, work on getting in the food, and sip sip sip. That’s all I have to do. And I can do that – I have been doing that.

Does it count twice if I come up with something else positive? I was feeling like the worst kind of wuss because the pain of the trapped wind was making me cry but instead of just berating myself, I accepted Stripes’ words that I was far from being a wuss, was handling things well and allowed myself to stop trying to bull through the pain and rest. That has to be a good sign, right? I allowed myself to just feel rough and do what I could to recover.

Book_grim is back at work tonight and going to visit her dad’s side of the family tomorrow, so for the rest of the week it will just be me and Stripes. I don’t think we have any wild plans – she’s got her baking to do for her dad’s side of the family Christmas, and I want to crochet and do some reading.

We’re coming up on the deadline we set for the wet room to be cleaned and it looks like our Airtasker has completely and utterly flaked on us. I’ll get the money back and try to rebook but I am really disappointed. But I might ask Stripes to help me refresh my hair dye – the soft lavender is definitely fading so could do with a top up. So, shower tomorrow and fresh jimjams which actually sounds rather lovely. So Puree Redux is under way and I think I’m going to call today a success because in spite of the wind issues, I didn’t just stick to liquids – I ate the tuna and mashed potato, and the smoothie is definitely thicker than water or tea. Little steps!

Slowly slowly sip sip!

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 159.4 |

Puree Week⟫ Setback Day 1

Yesterday’s return to liquids seems to have helped – no more diarrhoea. I was a little disappointed – I guess I had it all set in my head how things were going to go and I am having to wrap my head around the fact that my body is dictating the pace, not my mind.

So yesterday, I had a scrambled egg which tasted absolutely divine even though I wasn’t able to finish the whole thing; a milky coffee; the remains of the Fage coconut and mango smoothie and a cup-a-soup. Last night, I vaped for the first time in over a week and ended up falling asleep just before 1am. Woke up around 7 to go to the loo, then back to sleep until 11 a.m. I feel better for that much sleep but am still pretty exhausted – too much on Saturday most likely.

I did have my counselling session and have homework. I have to consider my negative self-talk and find a way to put a positive spin on it – not something I’m great at. One per day, with an additional one being looking in the mirror and saying something positive.

So, positivity day 1: the scales are moving so slowly that I feel like I am failing – I’ve lost 2/3 of my stomach and yet the scales are pretty much stalled. Positive spin? I am trusting myself and the process and not trying to ‘cheat’ the system. I accept the number on the scales even as I accept that it is not the whole picture and that’s okay.

I paid for the girls to go and see Wicked this afternoon, as a thank you for how much support they have given me whilst using Ozempic but mostly for the really difficult period of time after we found out my surgery date. It’s nice to be able to do something nice for them and even better, because I’m so ruddy tired all that I’m going to do is update the blogs and then nap/crochet/watch TV. They don’t have to worry about me being on my own, and I know that they are going to have a good time. Not sure what the plan is for dinner, but judging by the fact that my scrambled egg today feels like it’s wedged in my throat, I think I might stick with something liquid. Slowly slowly, sip sip. That should be my new mantra!

Puree Week - day 3 and a slight setback

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 159.6 |

Puree Week⟫ Day 3

The mashed potato with eatlean cheese was lovely, but omg the portion sizes are gonna take some getting used to! Stripes made an 8th of the pack and I still left more than 2/3rd of it. I was a little disheartened by my progress which was when the tsunami of diarrhoea reminded me that things can always be much worse.

So today, the plan is to go back to liquids – milk, cup a soup with bone broth, maybe a smoothie. I would still like to try a scrambled egg for breakfast though! I need to remind myself that this is for the long haul and that quick fixes don’t work. So what if it takes me longer to get up to a ‘full’ meal which is meant to be about 5 tablespoons – the longer it takes, maybe the more weight comes off in the meantime. Speaking of which, I am getting heartily sick of seeing 159 and 160. Even bouts of diarrhoea don’t seem to be making the scales shift in any meaningful way. I wonder if some of this has to do with the voice in the back of my head again – how nice would it be to excise that once and for all?

I didn’t have my counselling session as I was stuck in the bathroom, so that should be happening today. Other than that, I want to sip sip sip, do some crochet and some reading. That should be more than enough for today!

I can feel that I did too much yesterday – all the walking around, faux-socialising, trying on clothes and doing some (very rudimentary) resistance bands stuff. The ache around my incisions is not as sharp as it has been, which means I am slowly starting to feel the pain from my knees and back – it didn’t go anywhere, it was just masked by the tugging, etc that I was experiencing. I’m sticking with the paracetamol at the moment but if things get much worse, I may have to resort to some gabapentin dissolved in liquid which says just how much pain I’m in because that stuff tastes RANK!

Puree Week - Day 2

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 159.9 |

Puree Week⟫ Day 2

Day 1 of the Great Puree week seemed to go okay, but today I am struggling a little with diarrhoea. Yesterday, I had chicken with mushrooms and spinach – it looked strange but was really tasty. I hadn’t realised just how tired I was going to feel eating and went to bed before midnight. I woke up a couple of times to go to the bathroom then crashed out again.

Anyway, this morning I attempted to make Wheat Bix. All went well in the kitchen but once I got back to my room and tried it, I decided it needed a little sf flavourings. My hand shook and it felt like I poured half the bottle into the breakfast. I did taste it but it was unpalatable and I didn’t have the energy to go to the kitchen and try it all again, so I waited until Stripes was up. It seemed to go down okay – it was very much just like a liquid Wheat Bix so not quite as textured as the chicken and veg I had last night. I had a small muller light Greek yoghurt mixed with my antidepressants, and I think that is what my body is reacting to. It’s a bit similar to when I used to have Ozempic clear-outs – it’s like my body has decided NOPE and it has to be expelled immediately.

The plan is to have mashed potato and cheese for dinner and hopefully that sticks because I am looking forward to that so much!

Vee and Shar visited which was lovely. They didn’t want to stay long as both Stripes and I are still fighting off this leurgy, but it was very nice to see them. Vee said I had lost so much weight and I struggled to accept the compliment. I said that it was from before the surgery and tried to play it off instead of just accepting it. Maybe something to think about and work out how I feel?

I’m meant to be having another counselling session today but (a) I didn’t have any homework and (b) I am struggling to stay awake, so we shall have to see! Strictly and maybe a movie later as I want to do some work on the blanket for Jay’s granddaughter.

Puree Week - Day 1

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 160.1 |

Puree Week⟫ Day 1

I find myself wondering what exactly I expected from Friday the 13th! A bit of an on again/off again sleep thing – this cold is truly wiping me out – but I was up at 6ish and felt not bad. When Stripes got up to feed the beasties, we went into the kitchen and I made my first smoothie: coconut Fage yoghurt, mango slices, skimmed milk. Felt a little bit like I was cheating – I blitzed it down so that it was pretty much the same liquid texture as I’ve been having since the surgery. It tasted nice – maybe a little bland?

Lunch-time, and Stripes decided to tempt me with Salted Caramel Fuel porridge made with skimmed milk. This was more of a challenge – I was worried that some of the oats might slip past my teeth without me chewing and choke me; that it was too thick; that it was too thin. I also wanted to be sure that I was taking small enough spoonfuls and ‘chewing’ it for a long enough period of time. I think quite possibly the hardest part of it all was not drinking while I was eating. You’re meant to give yourself 30 minutes after a meal before drinking anything and I struggled with that. Maybe because I am beginning to feel like I’m not drinking enough as a general rule and I’m concerned about becoming dehydrated.

I think the plan is chicken, mushrooms and spinach for dinner but I don’t even know if I’ll have the energy. 20 minutes of eating the porridge and I probably managed three tablespoons if that? And I am tired!

Some of my tiredness is frustration – the Airtasker cancelled (again) and I’ve been trying to find a way to remove them from the task without having to pay a fee. She claims that she can’t remove herself but surely if she has to reschedule or something goes wrong, she has access to cancelling a job? It all feels quite dodgy to me and it’s annoying AF because it means the task still isn’t complete.

I called the PIP consultation line to see if there was any news about my review. They received and acknowledged my paperwork on 15th October and I haven’t heard anything since. When I finally got through to speak to a person, he asked if I had been given any timelines for the review. Apparently, because of a backlog, it is sometimes taking up to a year before reviews are complete. However, as my award is due to expire around 3rd May, if they still haven’t got to my review by 3rd April, I will automatically be renewed for twelve months.

We will still be able to get a motability car for a one year lease as apparently as long as your award has over 12 months to go on it, you can use the mobility part for a car. But how incredibly ridiculous is it that they chased me to do a review form, complete with deadlines, whilst being unable to handle the sheer amount of reviews and new claims they already have to handle. And they weren’t going to say anything – was I literally meant to spend the next six months on tenterhooks wondering if I was going to get the award? It’s like they have no idea how stressful the whole thing is – it beggars belief. It does mean that I’m not going to be eligible for the Advance Payment assistance that they are running until 3rd January, so I need to start putting money aside for that. It might be a big ask, especially since we’re going to have to keep using Ubers, but I want to try to put aside £250 per month so that I can afford the Advance Payment.

I finished wrapping the last of the Christmas presents (apart from the conch ring I bought for Stripes – no idea where that has disappeared to! But now there are presents for all of us on top of the bookcase and the cabinet and I feel like it’s a decent enough haul.

I finished the pattern I was crocheting for my beanie and because I have a planet-sized noggin, it’s too freaking small. I tried to unravel it but the chenille did not react well and began to snap and break. So it looks like I’m going to have to do some fine-tuning to the pattern to allow for the size of my head! I think I will try to finish that this evening, then spend the next couple of nights working on the blankets for Jay’s grand-kids.

I put an order in for the condiments tubs from Amazon – size-wise, they should be good for keeping small portions of things and not taking up too much space in the freezer – but I can see that it’s going to be a bit of a learning curve figuring out all of this stuff. My brain is fried so I think I’m gonna turn off the laptop and do some reading. Only three more meals to have today!

TW: Gnarly Incision Photos!

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 159.4 |

Post Surgery Diet⟫ Week 2 of Liquids

Not sure what is was I ate yesterday that caused a reaction, but I have a rather upset stomach. Not quite liquid but kinda yellow in colour, which makes me think it has to be the pineapple that I’ve been blending into my yoghurt and milk. I think it might be time to get rid of that tin of fruit (it’s been open and used since Monday I think) and will move on to the mango. I have strawberry yoghurt but I think it might taste better with the coconut stuff I got in the shopping.

Jay suggested that I try adding my antidepressants to the yoghurt since they refuse to dissolve fully in water and that sounds like a a decent plan to me. She also recommended some protein yoghurts but I’m not sure how I feel about those. I tried Kvarge a while back and couldn’t handle the texture but my tastebuds have definitely changed since the surgery and it may turn out to be okay.

I’m meant to be having five small meals a day from Friday (a period of puree begins tomorrow) so today is the last fully liquid day. I read somewhere to try something new and then allow four hours to see how the body is going to react to it. I don’t think I want to start the day with a weetabix – for some reason, that feels like it might be too big a change from all liquids, so I think I’ll go with a slightly lumpier yoghurt! Wow, I make it sound so enticing!

And in further gross things that my body can do, a chunk of scab came off of one of my incisions. I’ll try to include a picture, but be warned, it’s not exactly pretty! I don’t even know when it came off – I went to moisturise the incisions and there it was, looking like an extra incision but not attached at all! If it helps, the image is taken by me looking down at my stomach, so you’re basically seeing down my torso. You can’t see the two incisions on the right side as (a) they’re hidden by my boob! And (b) they’re pretty much healed up now!

* white square is the incision that always looks like it’s one second away from exploding when I sneeze. It has a weirdly protruding bit that freaks me out and makes me panic every time!

* yellow square is the scab formed from glue, stitches, skin, etc which decided to detach itself! Gross yet fascinating!

* aqua square is the actual incision – still has some scabby bits on it, but generally speaking is pretty much healed.

* bright pink square is the biggest incision that was there – I imagine, this is where they tugged my stomach through (boak*) and now it kinda looks like an infinity symbol, although that might be me being fanciful!

The girls have likened them to my tattoo healing abilities – sometimes, within days my tattoos look like they’ve been there forever; other times, old tattoos can look like they never intend to heal fully. Based on the pictures of incisions and healing wounds I’ve seen on Reddit, etc, I think I’ve been quite lucky with how they look. I wouldn’t have said that a week ago, but time and hindsight definitely help!

My wool turned up, so today I think I’m going to work on my hat and maybe watch some TV, as well as doing some reading. The sneezing is aggravating and I hesitate to say that it’s getting better in case I implement Murphy’s Law, but rest is never a bad thing!

Brace, brace, brace - incoming sneeze!

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 160 |

Post Surgery Diet⟫ Week 2 of Liquids

This cold has escalated until I feel like it might just be the flu. Of course, if I had installed a braincell, I might have realised that some of what’s going on is withdrawal from a variety of meds. I haven’t taken most of my normal stuff since the day before surgery, but the emotional whiplash may well be because I went cold-turkey on my antidepressants. I don’t even know why I didn’t think about the effect it might have on me – physically and mentally – but it might explain some of the rollercoasters I’ve been riding.

Yesterday I tried an options hot chocolate sachet with skimmed milk. It tasted okay, but the texture felt really strange on my tongue and I couldn’t finish it. Then suddenly it was like everything on my insides needed to be on my outsides immediately and there followed a few urgent trips to the bathroom. Stripes said it might be dumping syndrome since that’s pretty much the first time I’ve had ‘chocolate’ so I think I’m going to avoid chocolate for the foreseeable.

We went through the manifesto agenda and I think we might have the beginnings of an idea as to how to move forward with cleaning schedules, etc. It’s never easy having those chats – doesn’t seem to matter how mature people are trying to be, me and Book_grim rub each other up the wrong way and things escalate to unpleasantness, and suddenly we’re running through grievances from years ago. It doesn’t help that I feel like absolute lukewarm shit.

The scales are driving me insane because the numbers are going up instead of down. Not by huge amounts, but it’s more than a little disheartening to find that it doesn’t look like there’s been any weight loss in week two. I’ve heard of the three week stall but not week two and of course my mind has run away with the idea that I’ve been doing things wrong and that the surgery didn’t work on me. Ridiculous and not helped even slightly by the fact that I am meant to be moving to pureed food from Friday. We put through an Asda order, with weetabix, protein sources, veggies – things with texture that can be blended to something smooth. I’m a little scared of it to be honest – sometimes it feels like the surgery literally just happened, other times like I’m dragging my feet with regard to progress, etc. I don’t want to mess this up – I don’t think that I am messing it up – but there’s this voice in the back of my head (no points for guess who it sounds like) telling me that I need to get a move on and put some work in, that if I’m not actively losing weight, then I’m failing.

There’s so much head stuff that needs to be worked through. Today, I have the last few presents arriving to be wrapped up (as well as some due on Thursday), but other than that, I wonder if I might just be doing myself a favour if I wrap up with cup-a-soup and sleep the day away.

Stripes found the dissolvable antipressants so I’ve started taking those – I’ll build them up but it’s good to know that we’ve got them here. She also made me a pina colada smoothie for breakfast, although it’s difficult because not only can I not taste a damned thing, I’m struggling to breathe with a blocked nose so I don’t know how much of it I’m going to be able to consume. Some Vicks vapour rub under my nose, have taken my paracetamol and drunk some protein water, and I think it’s definitely time to shut down the tech and see if I can sleep again! Might post more later!

The Great Pre-Puree Experimentation

Well apparently I was tired! I vaguely remember the cats being fed but that was all she wrote. I settled down without additional pillows around 8.30 pm and the next thing I know, it’s 6.30 in the morning! I didn’t post to the blog yesterday – had it all written out but then did nothing with it! So I’ll just add it on to this one.

Yesterday, I began the great pre-puree experimentation. I put a Muller Greek coconut yoghurt in with some pineapples and some milk and blitzed it in my bullet. It tasted kind of like a virgin pina colada, a very different flavour to what I’ve been consuming lately. It made a nice change – everything was beginning to just taste of bone broth! So today for breakfast, I had the same but with a strawberry yoghurt instead of coconut.

We were meant to be having the bathroom deep cleaned but the person who accepted the job can’t make it today. We’ve postponed until Friday but if they try to reschedule again then I think we’ll ask them to cancel so we can offer the job to someone else. So instead of the bathroom getting a deep clean, I have a few things I wouldn’t mind getting started on.

* getting all of the shakes together, listing them all and figuring out the best place to sell them;

* unpacking my parcel from SimplyBe so that everything is laid out and I know what fits and what I want to shrink into;

* I wrote some things into the family manifesto but we haven’t had the chance to discuss them as yet. With the deep clean of the bathroom postponed, maybe aim for next week with looking at the points I raised?

Vee and Shar are talking about visiting this weekend, although to be fair they have been talking about visiting since before I went into the hospital. I don’t mind either way to be honest – maybe they’re right and I just don’t like visitors? Or maybe I just don’t want to feel judged in my own space. Ohh, zing, apparently catching up on sleep makes me snarky and a little bit sassy!

Stripes is out at a Carer’s thing and Book_grim is asleep, so I think I’m going to grab a book and snuggle down to read.I’ve already done the Home Bargains order so we should have cat litter by next week. I think I’ve finalised the last of Stripes’ presents (Book_grim and the Oldest are already all bought and wrapped). So another industrious day of reading and sleeping then! This sneezing thing is still hanging around and sometimes, my incisions look like they’re on the verge of popping open which freaks me out. On the other hand, the two on my right side seem to be pretty much closed and done with. It’s the other three that are really scabby, look a bit oozy and the whole ‘tugging from inside’ sensation is one I would happily never feel again!

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SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 160.1 |

Post Surgery Diet⟫ Week 2 of Liquids

I managed to read two ARCs and get the reviews up, so feeling rather industrious. I vaped my weed last night and I think I crashed out around 10pm. So when I woke up just before 3 am, I was less than pleased to realise that I was awake-awake. Sigh.

Today I decided to try to get down a SlimFast shake. It seemed like things were okay, but before I’d finished the last sip, I had to make my way to the bathroom and spent about 30 minutes in there. And as a way of showing just how flipping exhausted it made me feel, I didn’t even bother getting onto the scales to see if I lost some weight!

I think I’m going to gather up all of the protein shakes, slimfast and sachets and try to figure out how to sell them. It just doesn’t seem worth it to keep trying with them when I was having such little success pre-surgery, so why continue to put myself through that now. I’m on my last bottle of protein water and trying to decide if I should buy some more. When I like the flavour, it’s all good, but I think there have been far too many days where I’ve ended up throwing a lot of it away, especially as you’re meant to consume it within 24 hours of opening.

I was catching up with Jay and talking about how cold I feel all the damned time and she confirmed that it doesn’t actually get better! So I think it might be time to lean in to the whole thing – brushed cotton fitted sheets, brushed cotton pillow cases along with one of my velvet duvet sets and the heated blanket should stop me feeling like my limbs are blocks of ice! Stripes has her ED Counselling session today but she said she’s happy to change my bedding when she gets back.

And tomorrow is the day for the bathroom deep clean, which I am weirdly excited for! We’ve done stuff in the bathroom before (especially over the summers when we had the flies infestation – YUCK!) but it would be lovely to see what someone could achieve without the ‘sentimental’ attachment to the stuff that’s there. I think we all need to make sure things we definitely don’t want thrown away are either in an appropriate basket, or put away on top of the window ledge, so basically it’s a case of taking everything down, wiping it clean, etc, then putting everything back I know Book_grim said that there was a bag of stuff in the kitchen from the Airtasker that completed that but I don’t know what’s in there or if either she or Stripes have had a chance to go through it yet.

I think I want to risk having something to eat (maybe a mushroom cup-a-soup) but I don’t know if Book_grim is awake yet and the kitchen is so damned cold, I’m not sure I’m “hungry” enough to make me face that cold! I might write more later, but in the meantime I think I’m going to snuggle down under the duvet and see if I can regain the sensation in my fingertips!

Thin Skinned Day

SW⟫ 207.7 | CW⟫ 160 |

Post Surgery Diet⟫ Week 2 of Liquids

Sometimes I feel like I’m turning into a right Jekyll and Hyde.

Middle of the night, when Book_grim gets home from work, it feels like we can have a conversation that isn’t full of undertones – negative or otherwise – but as soon as the light of day hits, anything we say to each other is just so full of misunderstandings. Maybe in the middle of the night, I’m in a quieter place mentally, so it’s easier to put my own thoughts and feelings aside and understand more of where she is coming from? Or maybe during the day, I’m just harsher, more judgemental, more likely to snap? I don’t know – it’s something that’s been preying on my mind for a while now and I guess it’s something I will have to figure out how to address.

My SimplyBe order arrived and it’s (quite literally) a mixed bag. The coat that I thought was going to be huge on me doesn’t feel like it will do up. I’m less than a fortnight out of surgery, so just why I thought I’d be swimming in it I have no clue, but I felt a little disillusioned? Not helped by the fact that when I showed it to Book_grim, she made some comments about the texture that made me feel some type of way.

The pretty dress I decided to treat myself to in a size 26 barely fits onto my shoulders and I am struggling to imagine a time when it will fit my whole body. I didn’t even open the cycling shorts, vests, trousers or pyjamas because I couldn’t cope with more disappointment. I did get the rest of my presents for the Oldest and they are now all wrapped and ready for Santa_Stripes to do her deliveries!

This morning, I ventured into the kitchen and made myself a milky coffee. It was weird – I can’t actually think of a time since we moved here that I took over the kitchen to just do something like that for myself but not only did I manage it, but I didn’t have to sit down in the middle of it all. Achievement but I also need to be careful not overdo it. I read through the Bariatric Bible to see what I should be consuming in a day, and I’m still not up to the basics that they mention. Weird, because as of this Friday, I should be moving onto pureed stuff, and the list of things I should be consuming in a day seems more than a little overwhelming.

And addressing the (teeny) elephant in the room, the scales went up for the first time since surgery and I’ll admit, I had a bit of a freak out. My first thought was that Mom was right and I should have been paying more attention to the scales and not letting myself get derailed by thoughts of cars, etc. Then I calmed down, reminded myself of just how much I’m not eating, and that fluctuations are going to happen and I need to roll with them. So damned easy to fall back into that frame of thinking – I need to be more analytical and conscious of things and not slip into old patterns of thinking. That is going to be difficult.

I’m so freaking tired. My incisions look really gnarly – no weeping, heat or anything like that – but there are times when it feels like the tugging from inside is going to make me feel sick. Room temperature milk seems okay, but just a little bit too cold and suddenly I’m chilled all the way through.

Stripes is making chowder for dinner and has said she’s happy to blitz some for me and I am salivating at the idea. I know it’s just a home-made cup-a-soup, but it’s the food that everyone else is eating which makes me feel like a normal person. Rather than a hodge-podge of body parts rattling around in the cavern of my chest, barely held together with glue. Actually reading that, I think I might need to have a nap and/or an early night because I am obviously going through something mentally!

I have a couple of books to read and I would like to plan my medicinal vaping timing-wise to ensure that I get a decent amount of sleep. I’ve managed to take my Lansoprazole the last couple of days, am getting better at taking the paracetamol suspension, but I haven’t been taking my antidepressants, the migraine stuff – it’s still all very basic. So, I need to keep ahead of the pain in my knees and my guts so that I’m not feeling like crap. I know it’s only just been a week since surgery, but I want to make the absolute best try I can at getting into good routines from the beginning. I want to make this work for me at it’s optimum whilst also allowing myself time and space to be human.

All that to say, I’m going to log off, grab a book and chill out until it’s time for our youtubers and watching something together later. I guess I’m having a waterworks day – oh goody!

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Post Surgery Diet⟫ Liquids

I was still up when Book_grim got home from work and we chatted for nearly an hour – just about how things were going at work, some comments made by a colleague of theirs, that kind of thing. Somehow (can’t remember how) we got onto care of incisions and we found some data that seemed to say I should have been keeping my incisions moisturised with Vaseline or something similar. It’s really weird – scabby lumps of flesh, glue, dead skin – and I can’t tell if they’re healing well or not. A couple of them look like they’ve been strained by the coughing/sneezing and that kinda put the wind up me.

I’m still struggling with gas pains – at least I assume that they’re gas pains – and perhaps it’s time I experimented with different temperatures of liquid. I ended up doing a light vape of Big Narstie’s Moroccan Peach and finally went to sleep around 6 am(ish) then woke up around 12 this afternoon, so a decent amount of sleep for me. I don’t seem to be suffering any ill-effects from the vaping, so maybe I should consider slowly reintroducing it as a method of pain relief.

Today I had my first ‘session’ with Sh Wellbeing – the discovery conversation where I state what I’m looking to achieve and finding out how I can implement changes to help me succeed. Definitely helped that the ‘players’ are all known and it meant that I didn’t have to censor my words or anything. It was a good conversation, if only to emphasise just how much I have isolated myself from people. The impression being given seems to be that everything is full of love and light up here, with constant visits and support. It felt good to be able to admit the actual reality of things, to fix the erroneous impressions that are being given. Now I just need to apply myself to the homework when it comes through.

Today I tried a Hartley’s Rhubarb and Custard ready made jelly. Felt very strange to be eating from a spoon and the texture was weird. It was watery enough to kinda sluice through my teeth but was so obviously more than just liquid – kinda weird. I want to give it 24 hours without anything else new so that I can see if I’m going to have a reaction to the jelly, but apparently there is a Bakewell or something similar taste one that if this stays down, I am very much looking forward to trying! I realised today that I drank a whole bottle of Protein water by the middle of the afternoon – an achievement because normally I barely manage to get down a whole bottle by the end of the day. So progress is being made, although I’m not sure I’ll be able to finish the second bottle I opened.

Freak-out moment: the girls are watching New Amsterdam whilst I’m catching up on bits and pieces. I just so happened to look up when someone was having surgery on screen and had such a visceral reaction that they paused the TV to ask if I was okay. Like, I couldn’t even explain why it hit me so hard, seeing that on screen, but watching that steel rod entering that person’s body made me realise that just over a week ago, that was ME. That’s why my insides feel like articles of clothing being tossed around in a washing machine – when I rolled over last night without balancing carefully, I literally felt my insides falling around in the space, then the bulge of it pressed against my arm. Just thinking about it makes me want to be sick!

Wrapped all of the Christmas presents that were here – the Oldest’s ones are due to turn up on Monday. Tomorrow, my Black Friday Simply Be order is due – I am so looking forward to the coat, although also having clothes that fit that I can work out in comes a close second. The Resistance Bands I asked for for Christmas are here (ended up being sent an e-voucher and ordering it myself) and Stripes is going to wrap them for me. Look at me being all forward thinking and deciding to do exercise!

Feeling a bit rough around the edges – my incisions are itching and pulling, and I’m feeling a bit worn out so I think I’m going to log off and settle down to watch some TV and/or maybe do some reading!